Relationships
Have-Do-Be vs. Be-Do-Have
Imagine you are at home cooking dinner and anticipating a wonderful evening ahead with your lover. He / she comes home with a frown on his / her face, and without a word walks to the fridge, rolls his / her eyes and bursts out: Where’s my beer / yogurt?! I specifically asked you to buy some! You never do what I ask! Why are we together, anyway?! How you respond is going to be based on which operating mode you are in. Have-Do-Be - Excuse me!? I’m not your slave! - You said you’d buy it and it is not here! - Can’t you see...
read moreThe Need for Love
The Need of Love in difficult situations. How does this work? Love should never have to be a choice. But when it comes to difficult situations like the choice between you, your husband or your children what happens then? Well they cannot take care of themselves, they are apart of you and it’s your job to look after them, you have a duty of care of them because they are not adults, you are the one to make empowered decisions and choices on their behalf. What happens when they grow up? How would that leave your relationship with partner? It is...
read moreAre You A Bouncing Ball? … Checking In On You!
I have had several people recently tell me in their own unique ways that they felt something like a bouncing ball in life. Trying to juggle work, school, health and family responsibilities can be overwhelming, leaving someone to feel out of balance, disconnected and unfocused. Many of us can get caught up in busy and active lives. We start treading water and just surviving rather than making purposeful choices and actions with ourselves and others. This can be slippery slope in any relationship. I think it’s important to take a quick...
read morePlaying full out!
This is a video of the great Maya Plisetskaya dancing the dying Swan. She is 61 here. You see her dancing like this at 61 and you think to yourself: “There’s a woman who plays full out! Who is living life to the fullest! Squeezing the juice out of life!” You are probably imagining her activity filled days, her rehearsals and the rigorous training she still has to undergo to keep her body and her skills at a high performance level. This is someone who clearly pushes her own limits! But here are her own words as she describes working for...
read moreSo what is coaching exactly?
What is coaching? Coaching is the practice of supporting, challenging and empowering an individual or group/team through the process of achieving a specific personal or professional result via cutting edge strategies and change techniques. It is distinct from training and mentoring, in that the coach/client relationship is one of trust, accountability and responsiveness. Training is teaching an individual or group how to achieve a result by imparting practical skills and knowledge that relate to specific useful competencies, while mentoring is...
read moreWhy do people unsubscribe or even block you?
It is very easy to take this personally. What did you do? Did you offend them? How can you fix it? Don’t they like you? You can really beat yourself up over this, But people are people, they will do what they do best which is take offence, be prejudice and state their opinion. The important thing to remember is Never Take it Personally. They may have issues: Actually we all do but some handle theirs differently to others. Some handle this by excluding instead of including and finding out any needed reasons. Email overload:...
read moreThe Trust Account
In many relationships there is an accounting – what you do for me vs what I do for you. Whenever there is a surplus on one side, there is often a deficit on the other. The play of relationship will then be to get these sides into equilibrium. Along the way, there may be unhappiness, arguments, stone-walling, or even worse, a state of complete indifference. How did we get to this? In every relationship there is also a Trust Account. At the beginning of most passionate relationships the Trust Account will be full. But over time –...
read moreStuck Part 2 – PULL!!
So Mini You has you on living on auto pilot eh…. You cannot change the things you want in your life? Well, congratulations! Huh??? Congratulations? Yes!! Congratulations! Why? Well, because at least you know what you want to change! You are aware that there is stuff you need to do. In order to know that there is work to be done you first need to realize that you are not where you want to be. So, this means that you know where you want to be. So you know where you are (A) you know where you want to be (B) and now all you have to know is...
read moreShopping for a Coach?
I love shopping! I don’t care what it is, I’ll offer to help my friends shop. Need a car? Oh, let me go online and research for you! Need to find the perfect dress? Please, let me go with you! Yes, I love to shop! Shopping for a coach? Well, maybe not so much. But, I look at this this way…. When it comes to choosing a life coach, finding the right one for you is like finding the right running shoes. Sometimes, off and running, you find a pair that fit just right. But, sometimes you have to try on a couple pair and...
read moreAdventure Parable #04: Sex, Politics, Afghanistan, Triumph
What is your reaction when an injustice occurs? Do you react, submit or strategize an effective action? *** Unwashed for weeks, the woman is physically strong and lustful. She steps into the shower at Green Hotel in Peshawar with her Afghani warrior. Layers of red dirt stream down their bodies. Mouthfuls of water splash into their kisses. The force and pulsation of unbounded energy melds them into ONE. A knock at the door, the hotel manager enraged throws the Moujahadeen out of the hotel. “Not allowed,” he yells. Stunned the...
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