Lifestyle
The Need for Love
The Need of Love in difficult situations. How does this work? Love should never have to be a choice. But when it comes to difficult situations like the choice between you, your husband or your children what happens then? Well they cannot take care of themselves, they are apart of you and it’s your job to look after them, you have a duty of care of them because they are not adults, you are the one to make empowered decisions and choices on their behalf. What happens when they grow up? How would that leave your relationship with partner? It is...
read moreAre You A Bouncing Ball? … Checking In On You!
I have had several people recently tell me in their own unique ways that they felt something like a bouncing ball in life. Trying to juggle work, school, health and family responsibilities can be overwhelming, leaving someone to feel out of balance, disconnected and unfocused. Many of us can get caught up in busy and active lives. We start treading water and just surviving rather than making purposeful choices and actions with ourselves and others. This can be slippery slope in any relationship. I think it’s important to take a quick...
read morePlaying full out!
This is a video of the great Maya Plisetskaya dancing the dying Swan. She is 61 here. You see her dancing like this at 61 and you think to yourself: “There’s a woman who plays full out! Who is living life to the fullest! Squeezing the juice out of life!” You are probably imagining her activity filled days, her rehearsals and the rigorous training she still has to undergo to keep her body and her skills at a high performance level. This is someone who clearly pushes her own limits! But here are her own words as she describes working for...
read moreSo what is coaching exactly?
What is coaching? Coaching is the practice of supporting, challenging and empowering an individual or group/team through the process of achieving a specific personal or professional result via cutting edge strategies and change techniques. It is distinct from training and mentoring, in that the coach/client relationship is one of trust, accountability and responsiveness. Training is teaching an individual or group how to achieve a result by imparting practical skills and knowledge that relate to specific useful competencies, while mentoring is...
read moreWhy do people unsubscribe or even block you?
It is very easy to take this personally. What did you do? Did you offend them? How can you fix it? Don’t they like you? You can really beat yourself up over this, But people are people, they will do what they do best which is take offence, be prejudice and state their opinion. The important thing to remember is Never Take it Personally. They may have issues: Actually we all do but some handle theirs differently to others. Some handle this by excluding instead of including and finding out any needed reasons. Email overload:...
read moreThe Trust Account
In many relationships there is an accounting – what you do for me vs what I do for you. Whenever there is a surplus on one side, there is often a deficit on the other. The play of relationship will then be to get these sides into equilibrium. Along the way, there may be unhappiness, arguments, stone-walling, or even worse, a state of complete indifference. How did we get to this? In every relationship there is also a Trust Account. At the beginning of most passionate relationships the Trust Account will be full. But over time –...
read moreShopping for a Coach?
I love shopping! I don’t care what it is, I’ll offer to help my friends shop. Need a car? Oh, let me go online and research for you! Need to find the perfect dress? Please, let me go with you! Yes, I love to shop! Shopping for a coach? Well, maybe not so much. But, I look at this this way…. When it comes to choosing a life coach, finding the right one for you is like finding the right running shoes. Sometimes, off and running, you find a pair that fit just right. But, sometimes you have to try on a couple pair and...
read moreAnger and the Role of Forgiveness
Anger is a human emotion. It is strongly linked to rage, and all of us have experienced it in some form since we were children. We are taught as children that anger and rage are not OK, and so we learn very early on and very skilfully to hide our anger and our rage. Anger is also linked to fear. It is often a fear response that triggers an angry outburst, and is part of the fight or flight response. But fighting and retreating are actions that we take in response to an external threat. These actions are inbuilt into our system, and exist in...
read moreAdventure Parable #04: Sex, Politics, Afghanistan, Triumph
What is your reaction when an injustice occurs? Do you react, submit or strategize an effective action? *** Unwashed for weeks, the woman is physically strong and lustful. She steps into the shower at Green Hotel in Peshawar with her Afghani warrior. Layers of red dirt stream down their bodies. Mouthfuls of water splash into their kisses. The force and pulsation of unbounded energy melds them into ONE. A knock at the door, the hotel manager enraged throws the Moujahadeen out of the hotel. “Not allowed,” he yells. Stunned the...
read moreHas Anyone Ever Called You a “Nag”?
Women are notorious for being labeled as “nags” (though I’ll bet there are a few men out there who’ve been called the same). I’m sure I speak for all women when I say how much we hate it! Fortunately, I’ve only been called a nag a couple times. and my response was to blame the man who called me that, thinking if only he would get off his lazy ass and do his share, I wouldn’t have to nag! And you know, there was definitely some truth to that. But as I’ve gotten older and … ahem, wiser, I’ve found that there’s...
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