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Feel the fear…

Posted by on Jul 1, 2011 in Anxiety, Freedom, Habits, Learning, Mindset |

Feel the fear…

What is your experience of fear? Is it fear that you will fail, or arguably more common, that you will succeed? Is it keeping you small, feeding itself on the negative self-talk of ‘not good enough’, ‘not accepted’, or ‘not loved’? What if, instead of STOP, whenever fear showed up it meant GO FOR IT! There is only one antidote to fear – and that is to do the very thing you fear. Don’t wait for courage to appear to overcome the fear. Courage comes from acknowledging the fear and acting in spite of it. Until you take this step, the fear will be the monster that lurks under the bed, or the stalker lying in wait in the woods,...

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Does your child have good marks at school?

Posted by on Jun 30, 2011 in Children, Learning, Learning Disabilities, Parenting, Self Esteem |

Does your child have good marks at school?

A friend of mine was telling me about her son the other day. He had this science test at school and she felt that he was not preparing for it as he should be. He took his test and had pretty decent marks. He received 17,5 on a twenty marks test. Plus, for that school’s standards, this wasn’t that easy to achieve. When he announced his results to his mum, she told him in a friendly and joking way: “Well, if you got that result without learning anything, just imagine what you could have had, had you worked a little bit harder!” When she told me that story, I asked myself if we can ever be satisfied by our children’s marks, even when they are good marks. Why is...

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Adventure Parable #04: Sex, Politics, Afghanistan, Triumph

Posted by on Jun 29, 2011 in Career & Money, Culture, Leadership, Learning, Life Purpose, Life Stages, Lifestyle, Passion, Passionate Living, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality, Success, Women |

  What is your reaction when an injustice occurs? Do you react, submit or strategize an effective action? *** Unwashed for weeks, the woman is physically strong and lustful. She steps into the shower at Green Hotel in Peshawar with her Afghani warrior. Layers of red dirt stream down their bodies. Mouthfuls of water splash into their kisses. The force and pulsation of unbounded energy melds them into ONE. A knock at the door, the hotel manager enraged throws the Moujahadeen out of the hotel. “Not allowed,” he yells. Stunned the journalist argues but to no avail. She packs her things and leaves with her handsome lover. A day passes and she discovers that her...

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Has Anyone Ever Called You a “Nag”?

Posted by on Jun 29, 2011 in Freedom, Gratitude, Learning, Mindset, Passionate Living, Personal Development, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Love, Success |

Women are notorious for being labeled as “nags” (though I’ll bet there are a few men out there who’ve been called the same). I’m sure I speak for all women when I say how much we hate it! Fortunately, I’ve only been called a nag a couple times. and my response was to blame the man who called me that, thinking if only he would get off his lazy ass and do his share, I wouldn’t have to nag! And you know, there was definitely some truth to that. But as I’ve gotten older and … ahem, wiser, I’ve found that there’s usually some truth in what people point out to us about ourselves as well. I’ve also learned that our internal world creates...

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Stepping out of comfort zone while having fun

Posted by on Jun 20, 2011 in Creativity, Emotional Mastery, Freedom, Learning, Lifestyle, Mindset, Passionate Living, Personal Development, Self Esteem, Success |

Stepping out of comfort zone while having fun

I know what it is like having certainty as the most important need coupling with significance. On the surface it seems fun, you can have variety, you just have to make sure you don’t cross your limits or in other words, your comfort zone. Your environment sees you as an interesting person, but inside you know that is not true. You are not true to yourself, because love is on the 3rd or 4th  place, it can’t flow freely. When I discovered my own needs and their order, I decided it has to be changed, NOW. Period. So my journey began. Certainty and significance are my last 2 needs instead of the first ones. I’ve always loved variety, but it was in...

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The self-fulfilling prophecy

Posted by on Jun 15, 2011 in Freedom, Goal Setting, Learning, Life Purpose, Life Stages, Lifestyle, Passionate Living, Personal Development, Success, Wellness |

The self-fulfilling prophecy

Often what we tell ourselves about the events of our lives and the meaning we give our different life phases can affect not only the way we see ourselves, but also affect our future. I know many people who believe their best years were when they were growing up, or when they were in their twenties. Others still believe that they reach their prime and have their best years in their thirties, and then after that it’s all downhill. Still others think that they only reach their peak when they hit forty, and it is common now to hear the phrase that the fifties are the new forties – who knows what after that! This belief always fascinated me, because I remember as...

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