Family
The Need for Love
The Need of Love in difficult situations. How does this work? Love should never have to be a choice. But when it comes to difficult situations like the choice between you, your husband or your children what happens then? Well they cannot take care of themselves, they are apart of you and it’s your job to look after them, you have a duty of care of them because they are not adults, you are the one to make empowered decisions and choices on their behalf. What happens when they grow up? How would that leave your relationship with partner? It is true that your relationship with your children is totally different to the relationship that you have with your partner. That is...
Read MoreAre You A Bouncing Ball? … Checking In On You!
I have had several people recently tell me in their own unique ways that they felt something like a bouncing ball in life. Trying to juggle work, school, health and family responsibilities can be overwhelming, leaving someone to feel out of balance, disconnected and unfocused. Many of us can get caught up in busy and active lives. We start treading water and just surviving rather than making purposeful choices and actions with ourselves and others. This can be slippery slope in any relationship. I think it’s important to take a quick assessment every few months – check in on your priorities and values and what’s important to you right now. Have you...
Read MoreSo what is coaching exactly?
What is coaching? Coaching is the practice of supporting, challenging and empowering an individual or group/team through the process of achieving a specific personal or professional result via cutting edge strategies and change techniques. It is distinct from training and mentoring, in that the coach/client relationship is one of trust, accountability and responsiveness. Training is teaching an individual or group how to achieve a result by imparting practical skills and knowledge that relate to specific useful competencies, while mentoring is the process of an expert providing their expertise to less experienced individuals to help them advance their careers, education,...
Read MoreThe Trust Account
In many relationships there is an accounting – what you do for me vs what I do for you. Whenever there is a surplus on one side, there is often a deficit on the other. The play of relationship will then be to get these sides into equilibrium. Along the way, there may be unhappiness, arguments, stone-walling, or even worse, a state of complete indifference. How did we get to this? In every relationship there is also a Trust Account. At the beginning of most passionate relationships the Trust Account will be full. But over time – sometimes a short time and sometimes a very long time – this account will become eroded and the sign of this erosion will hit...
Read MoreShopping for a Coach?
I love shopping! I don’t care what it is, I’ll offer to help my friends shop. Need a car? Oh, let me go online and research for you! Need to find the perfect dress? Please, let me go with you! Yes, I love to shop! Shopping for a coach? Well, maybe not so much. But, I look at this this way…. When it comes to choosing a life coach, finding the right one for you is like finding the right running shoes. Sometimes, off and running, you find a pair that fit just right. But, sometimes you have to try on a couple pair and compare. Still other times, you have to run around the block a couple times. Sometimes people finally cultivate the courage to...
Read MoreDoes your child have good marks at school?
A friend of mine was telling me about her son the other day. He had this science test at school and she felt that he was not preparing for it as he should be. He took his test and had pretty decent marks. He received 17,5 on a twenty marks test. Plus, for that school’s standards, this wasn’t that easy to achieve. When he announced his results to his mum, she told him in a friendly and joking way: “Well, if you got that result without learning anything, just imagine what you could have had, had you worked a little bit harder!” When she told me that story, I asked myself if we can ever be satisfied by our children’s marks, even when they are good marks. Why is...
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